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272 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2002
The vast majority of us have flesh on our bones. I wish I could report that we all love that flesh. Some of us do. Most of us do not. A great many of us simply give up, engaging in a process of negative acceptance. By that I mean that an individual woman may not like her looks, her weight, but ceases trying to change herself so that she no longer confroms to conventional sexist aesthetic standards, because to do so lessens her anxiety and stress. But she is still not self-loving. We cannot negate our bodies and love them.Ouch. If this isn't me to a T.
Let's face the fact that it helps to eroticize domination if you feel you can't change it.
In heterosexist, patriarchal culture, the only commitments that are deemed truly acceptable and worthy are those between straight women and men who marry.
We demand that men change, and when they do, we are often not ready to affirm and embrace the liberation we claimed to desire.