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A senior citizens’ center and a daycare collide with hilarious results in the new ensemble comedy from New York Times- bestselling author Clare Pooley

When Lydia takes a job running the Senior Citizens’ Social Club three afternoons a week, she assumes she’ll be spending her time drinking tea and playing gentle games of cards.

The members of the Social Club, however, are not at all what Lydia was expecting. From Art, a failed actor turned kleptomaniac to Daphne, who has been hiding from her dark past for decades to Ruby, a Banksy-style knitter who gets revenge in yarn, these seniors look deceptively benign—but when age makes you invisible, secrets are so much easier to hide.

When the city council threatens to sell the doomed community center building, the members of the Social Club join forces with their tiny friends in the daycare next door—as well as the teenaged father of one of the toddlers and a geriatric dog—to save the building. Together, this group’s unorthodox methods may actually work, as long as the police don’t catch up with them first.

352 pages, Hardcover

First published June 11, 2024

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Clare Pooley

16 books2,264 followers
Clare Pooley graduated from Newnham College, Cambridge and spent twenty years in the heady world of advertising.

Clare’s memoir - The Sober Diaries - has helped thousands of people around the world to quit drinking.

The Authenticity Project, Clare’s first novel, was a New York Times bestseller, a BBC Radio 2 book club pick, and winner of the RNA debut novel award.

Clare’s second novel - called The People on Platform 5 in the UK, and Iona Iverson’s Rules for Commuting in the USA - was published in 2022.

How to Age Disgracefully is being published in June 2024.

Clare lives in London and Cornwall, with her husband, 3 kids and 2 border terriers. She loves cooking, walking the cliff paths and wild swimming.

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Author 16 books2,263 followers
February 5, 2024
At the time of writing this (March 2023), I am the only person in the WHOLE WORLD who has read this book, since I’ve only just finished writing it! Not sure how it popped up on GoodReads already! Anyhow, I’m giving it five shiny stars, because if I don’t believe in it, I can’t expect anyone else to. Good luck, my newest story, as you venture your way out into the world…
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309 reviews453 followers
May 17, 2024
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This is my third book by Clare Pooley and I have loved every one of them. Both The People on Platform 5/Iona Iverson's Rules for Commuting and The Authenticity Project were five-star reads for me and How to Age Disgracefully does not disappoint. Pooley stuck to what she does best...mix in a bunch of strangers and stir the pot to see what happens. Pooley writes engaging stories that have you cheering the characters on. She deftly blends humour and misery and ends up with a story with a cozy mystery vibe...with no mystery, just a bunch of seniors taking the world on by their own rules.

This story was such a fun romp. I adored Daphne even though I didn't like her at first. All the characters were pretty likable and we get many points of view but Daphne is the star. Don't get me wrong, the other characters are wonderfully written but Daphne just seemed to stick out more than the others. The entire time I was reading the book I wondered, can these strangers become friends? Can they be the answer they're all looking for? They were just such an unlikely bunch to become friends and each other's answer to their prayers. Funny, sad, moving and quirky Clare Pooley hits another one out of the park.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for the Advance Readers Copy.
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67 reviews75 followers
June 11, 2024
"She appeared to have jumped out of the frying pan of sexism and into the fire of ageism. The final frontier of isms."

I cannot stress enough how much fun I had reading this book! 
From the very first page to the last, the story is compelling and laugh out loud funny. I found myself very attached to the characters, who are so unique and human.

I loved that it is mostly about older people, but  without the clichés and the prejudice.
I will probably read it again sometime.
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401 reviews551 followers
July 12, 2024
4.75⭐️ 70 y/o fmc and 75 y/o mmc with a man called ove vibes 💟

How to age disgracefully 😎

Tip 1: Ghost as many people as possible whose business are none of your business

Tip 2: Keep abreast with technology

Tip 3: Old age isn't a good reason to be unfashionable! Stay overdressed!!

Tip 4: Be as selfish and cynical as possible. THAT IS, BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING, HAVE A GOOD ANSWER TO- "WHAT IS IN IT FOR ME?"

Tip 5: Be feminist enough to not let ageism or sexism get in the way of your opinions being heard

Tip 6: Invest in pilates/yoga or flexibility/movement training, also weights is good for osteoporosis

Tip 7: Always take advantage of being underestimated

Tip 8: Don't waste time being perfect

Tip 9: When you have to choose between two best or worst options, ask yourself "which of them is the best way to die?"

“You’re still not very nice,” said Art. “Well, you’re still far too nice,” said Daphne. “So between us, we’re perfect.”

“And be careful, Daffy, because when I look at you now, I’d almost think you were capable of love.” “Actually, you’re the one who should be careful,” said Daphne. “Because when I look at you now, I’m starting to think I just might be.”


I was going back on forth between 4 stars and 5 stars and the reason was that I wanted Art and Daphne to have had more romantic moments together and I was just kinda salty about that and second reason was that a story and plot as a whole was very original but some aspects felt familiar to me.

In the end, I thought those aren't good reason not to give this masterpiece the 5 stars it deserves. Because I loved Lydia and Ziggy. I loved all the characters and their weird quirks and friendship dynamics. It felt real. It was almost like the author has once lived this story and now I want to live it too! I have said it before and I will say it again, I love books that make it difficult to forget about them, that's the whole point. 💖💖

***

because i'm literally looking for tips 😎📝
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1,586 reviews7,009 followers
May 5, 2024
Daphne’s 70th birthday prompts her to reflect on her past and the fact that she’s kept a very low profile for many years, venturing out only when necessary. The thing is, Daphne has a very shady past, but could now be the right time to get out there again, act like normal people do? Most importantly would she be safe?

After much thought Daphne decides to join a Senior Citizens Social Club at the local community centre, and while she’s at it, how about a spot of Internet dating?

Let’s just say that Daphne is not the easiest of characters to get along with, but her interactions with others (especially fellow senior citizen Art) makes for some very amusing dialogue. Easy to get along with she is NOT, but she has real hidden depth and this lady definitely steals the show!

The author skilfully presents a diverse cast of characters, from the funny to the malevolent, each bringing their own unique story, and all of them with one thing in common, their determination to stop the local council from closing their community centre. There’s laughs galore, sitting alongside some really emotional moments, so if you’re looking for a fun and entertaining read, then look no further.

*Thank you to Netgalley and Random House UK, Transworld Publishers Bantam for an ARC in exchange for an honest unbiased review *
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703 reviews2,470 followers
June 22, 2024
4.5⭐️

Laugh-out-loud funny and heartwarming, featuring a diverse cast of characters (including a charming dog named Maggie Thatcher), How to Age Disgracefully by Clare Pooley is a delightful read that will touch a chord in your heart.

As she approaches her seventieth birthday, reclusive Daphne decides to make some changes to the way she leads her life. For starters, she decides to be more sociable, which motivates her to join the Senior Citizens Social Club at the local Community Centre. Daphne isn’t the easiest person to be around – secretive and opinionated – she’s off to a bumpy start but gradually makes friends with the other members - Art (and his friend William who often joins the group activities), Ruby and Anna– a diverse group of people, each of whom is dealing with their own difficulties in life, including fifty-three-year-old Lydia, who runs the group. An empty nester whose husband mostly ignores her has,she just started in her new role and wasn’t prepared for the spirited group of seniors whose idea of fun doesn’t quite translate into quiet group activities. When the city council decides to sell the crumbling building that houses the community centre, the club members join forces with the daycare (also housed in the same building) and Ziggy, the teenage father of one of the toddlers to raise funds to save the building – not an easy task, with Daphne struggling to keep her dark past hidden and each of the members dealing with their own life problems.

The narrative is presented from multiple perspectives that allow us to get to know the characters and their backstories. I loved the characters, enjoyed their banter and loved how they grew to care for one another, banding together not only to save their community centre but also to help one another. Daphne is a fascinating character and I enjoyed following her character arc, not to mention her dynamic with Art. Ziggy is an endearing character. I was rooting for him to get his life sorted. Ruby and Anna were wonderful characters. I sympathized with Lydia but also admired her resolve. I really liked how she was able to emerge out of her shell with the help of her new friends! The author approaches several serious themes such as aging, loneliness, infidelity, emotional abuse, teenage parenthood and complicated family dynamics and much more with heart and insight. You might have to suspend disbelief on occasion, but that does not detract from the overall reading experience.

Overall, I thoroughly enjoyed this uplifting story about unlikely friendships, living life on your own terms and new beginnings. I didn’t want the story to end and would love to meet these characters again!

Many thanks to PENGUIN GROUP Viking for the digital review copy via NetGalley. All opinions expressed in this review are my own. This novel was published on June 11, 2024.

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180 reviews317 followers
March 30, 2024
This is my first book by Clare Pooley, and oh my gosh, why didn't anyone tell me about her brilliance before?! Like, seriously, I've been living under a rock not reading her stuff sooner!

Lydia, main protagonist, unwittingly thrust into a world teeming with eccentricity and mischief. Pooley has crafted a cast of characters so vibrant, so alive, that they practically leap off the page. Art, with his penchant for pilfering; Daphne, haunted by secrets buried in the recesses of her past; and Ruby, the Banksy of knitting—each one a masterpiece in their own right. So, when the city council decides to bulldoze their beloved hangout spot, that golden team isn't about to take it lying down!

This book had me laughing so hard. and I'm talking belly laughs that'll have you clutching your sides. But don't get it twisted—there's some serious heart in here too. Like, I'm not ashamed to admit I shed a tear or two (okay, maybe more like a waterfall) at some of the heartfelt moments.

I love how this book is totally fresh and unique! Like, how often do you see a book with a squad of seniors as the main crew? Clare Pooley totally nailed it with this one and I can't wait to read more of her works!
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756 reviews203 followers
July 13, 2024
I just want to RAVE about this book. The author writes the words of Dylan Thomas "Do not go gentle into that night. Old age should burn and rave at the close of day." This comedy is just so good. Daphne is a well-drawn character who grows and causes the other characters of the book to shine. There is a mystery to the backgrounds of Art and Daphne and an entire cast of elderly people who are so much more than meets the eye. I read this over 2 days and didn't want to put it down.
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400 reviews68 followers
June 13, 2024
3.5 stars, rounded up - Although it dragged at times, I did enjoy this look a a rag-tag group of seniors, Gen Z's & Alphas and a doggo all working together to save their community center. Very quirky & heart-warming, maybe a tad trite, but still what I expected (and I loved Maggie T. the dog!)
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26 reviews9 followers
April 13, 2024
Star Rating: 🌟🌟🌟🌟
Read my full review on my blog! Thank you NetGalley for offering an advance read of this novel!

Join the escapades of Daphne, Art, Ziggy, and Lydia as they band together to save their beloved community center from closure. With Lydia at the helm and a motley crew of characters by her side, expect laughter, mischief, and a hefty dose of British charm. From Daphne's fearless quest for friendship and to re-enter society to Art's knack for playing dead (on screen, that is), this quirky tale promises a journey through the highs and lows of aging disgracefully. Get ready for a read that'll have you chuckling from start to finish!
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6,585 reviews2,493 followers
May 28, 2024
Maybe the author was just trying to cash in on the current craze for "old people" novels, but this worked for me. I loved the multi-generational cast, unlikely friendships, and wacky situations. Anyone looking for a hilarious, upbeat novel to cleanse the palate after a downer book - this is the one. It's sheer fun from beginning to end!

Thanks to NetGalley and Pamela Dorman Books for the ARC.
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483 reviews42 followers
June 21, 2024
I enjoy Clare Pooley books - they are such feel-good, heartwarming stories and this one is no exception.

How to Age Disgracefully is a story about lonely seniors who meet when they sign up for a local senior citizens club. The club meets in a community center that is slated for closure to make way for luxury apartments. The seniors band together to save the building.

The story is told from the point of view of three of these seniors. Each character has their own story and distinct personalities and quirks. They are a joy to read about and to see how they come to become found family and find their happiness again while refusing to age gracefully or as society expects. Throw in a cheating husband, a dynamic, sharp-tongued woman with a past, a young teen father and his eight month baby, and a lovable dog called Maggie Thatcher, and you have a delightful read! I really enjoy novels that focus on older characters.

If you want a fun, quick read that will make you feel good and warm your heart, then make sure to pick this (and any Clare Pooley) book up!

Thanks to @bantambooksuk @randomhouse @transworldbooks for this complimentary copy. All opinions are my own.
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1,152 reviews650 followers
July 15, 2024
Take a handful of disgruntled seniors and add an inexperienced activities director - and there is bound to be mayhem and anarchy, especially if the author of the story is the ingenious Clare Pooley!



The first few chapters are devoted to introducing the cast of characters in this story who will eventually band together to stop the demolition of their decrepit community center.



I didn't know what to make of Daphne at first, but in the end I was in her corner all the way. Nothing really phazed her - she invariably had "a plan" and, like the secret super-heroine she obviously was, she came to the rescue of the doomed local community center and breathed life back in to that rag-tag group of retirees.



There are quite a few mysteries to solve and "stings" to perform, and justice (of a sort) prevails in the end - but no spoilers here!



Great story-telling and I bet you will come to love Daphne as much as I did. What a bag of tricks she turned out to be!



I highly recommend this lighthearted, well written comedic drama. The quirky characters are unforgettable: another winner for Clare Pooley! I'm rating this one a 5 out of 5 because I was always wanting to return to this story despite the many demands on my time these days.. My thanks to the author, publisher and NetGalley for an ARC of this novel in exchange for an honest review.
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535 reviews3,580 followers
April 5, 2024
4.5 ⭐️

Not sure if anything will compare to Iona Iverson but I loved this chaotic bunch of characters. Everyone was perfectly casted and I fell in love with Daphne. What a hoot. There was enough depth to humanize everyone but my favorite was the classic Clare Pooley chaos and quick witty writing. I laughed I cried and it was an absolute delight.
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May 15, 2024
If you’re looking for a read that simply makes you say . . . .



Clare Pooley might just be the gal for you. All of her books sort of follow the same thing – a ragtag bunch of folks finding unlikely friendship and a common cause. The cause this time around is saving the local community center from demolition. The ragtag friend group starts with some senior citizens and the woman who has been hired to run a social club for them. A high schooler, his baby, the kids from the nursery school and a dog eventually get added to the mix to bring on the saccharine sweet feels.

The story here jumps off with the community center van being pulled over by the cops who are looking for one suspect in particular. Nearly every occupant begins confessing to why they are the one the police are looking for – while the actual suspect is making a break for it. Then it does a rewind to introduce you to all of the characters, their backstories and eventually ends back at the beginning.

If you’re a fan of the Thursday Murder Club folks (particularly Elizabeth) and want to have some more fun with geriatrics, but without a body count, this one might work for you.

3.5 Stars and rounding up because it’s nice to smile sometimes : )

ARC provided by the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
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2,345 reviews194 followers
June 10, 2024
This is one of those books I selected when I was bored and trolling NetGalley. It is not at all what I usually read, but isn't that why we troll NetGalley sometimes? It is for me anyway. Soooo, since I am not into the current crop of Contemporary Romance, much too much angst, I thought I would try a book more suited to a seventysomething than a twentysomething. Turns out that "How to Age Disgracefully" with its biting British humor and very real life issues make this tale a departure from the norm.

Told from the points of view of several different characters: Daphne, a 70-year-old with secrets and no friends; Art, an actor, but at seventy-five, his agent has stopped taking his calls; Lydia whose job is the head of the Senior Citizen's Social Club at the Mandel Community Center; Ziggy, a teen father whose 8-month-old daughter attends day care at the center.

It was great getting to know each of these characters. They each have a story and each desperately needed help solving a problem. This is diverse group, and they all get to know each other and help each other. They all have to pull together in order to do that and to save the Mandel Community Center after an accident threatens to close it down. The lengths they will go to and the campaign they wage is worthy of the military, but so much more fun.

My thanks to the Publisher and Author for providing a complimentary digital Advanced Reader Copy (ARC) of this novel via NetGalley. This is my fair, honest and personal review. All opinions are mine alone and were not biased in any way.
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2,027 reviews119 followers
April 14, 2024
Loved every bit of this... miss these people already. Excited to add the hardcover to my collection when it releases:) Will be passing this onto my sister at some point. 👍🏼 👌

I think Daphne and Elizabeth from Thursday murder club would get along famously, in my humble opinion.

Someone make this into a movie 🎬 pretty please!

This was just a fun book with people who grow on you quickly. I wanted hug everyone and get into mischief with them 😄 🤣.

A certain masterpiece of "yarnsy" in the book had me cackling... I could see that being filmed and ending up in a Charlotte dobre video as well.

This'll give you some laughs and some tears, so enjoy the ride:).

Bit over top at times, but no complaints from this girl. It just made everything more fun.

The way Daphne took care of some "obstacles" for people... 👏 👏 Bravo!
I want to adopt her as a grandparent and have her on my team if a zombie 🧟‍♂️ apocalypse happened.
July 2, 2024
My rating: 4.75/5

Another Clare Pooley winner! In her traditional warm, witty, and British style, Clare brings us a fabulous mix of characters of all ages and personality types.

I knew I liked it when it first started but wasn’t immediately hooked. After a few chapters I settled into the story and became a big fan. I laughed, had “warm fuzzies”, and enjoyed getting to know everyone. The story was very bingeable.

Those that loved Iona Iverson’s Rules For Commuting will be a fan of this one, too.
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771 reviews192 followers
June 5, 2024
This was really such a heartwarming, enjoyable, and fun read. It's about Lydia, who takes a job at a senior community center. Then there is a chance the center could be closed down, so the seniors are on a mission to save their beloved community center. They also gain help from the daycare center next door, including the toddlers. You'll have multiple POV’s. I loved these funny, quirky characters and their antics. You see how seniors might be old in years, but they're still young at heart. I just love that! A nice, light and entertaining read.

Out June 11.

Thank you to the publisher and netgalley for the gifted copy in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.
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708 reviews2 followers
July 4, 2024
A classic theme for Clare Pooley — charming characters, both young and old, navigating ageism and the search for belonging. I enjoyed every minute and appreciated the concept that everyone has a crime to declare. 4.5 stars rounded up.
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218 reviews4 followers
June 8, 2024
Oh!! A friend lent me this book and said she thought I would enjoy it!! I gobbled it up like sweet homemade ice cream!!

What a fun day!! Thank you so much! I needed the smiles and laughs!!
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384 reviews79 followers
May 24, 2024
This was an entertaining and a truly hilarious story. I don’t usually laugh out loud while reading but this one was able to make me laugh every few pages. I loved the members of the social club. Each character was very different and brought a different type of humor to the story but they had issues they were dealing with outside of the club that was interesting to watch play out. This story went in directions I wasn’t expecting when it came to the situations the characters were dealing with on their own. It also touched on the power of friendship and learning to get out of your own way to allow others to help you. Also it touched on being able to open up to people and allow yourself to trust new people in your life. This book was such a delight and I was surprised at how much I enjoyed it. I would highly recommend!

I received an ARC from NetGalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review
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27 reviews4 followers
January 30, 2024
The Authenticity Project made it to my top books of 2022, The People on Platorm 5 was my top book of 2023, and How to Age Disgracefully will definitely be in my top 5 of 2024 and we're only in January.

I absolutely love Clare's writing style and the characters she creates. The unlikely friendships trope is one of my absolute favourites and Clare does it so well. I just know everyone is going to love this book.
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597 reviews118 followers
March 6, 2024
It’s official- I will forever read anything and everything Clare Pooley writes. Her humor, characters, and storytelling are unlike any other I’ve read- she manages to be both inspiring and extremely entertaining at the same time. The characters in her books always stick with me- they’re funny, real, and remind us all of the importance of honesty and human connection. I’d give this one more than 5 stars if I could!
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July 8, 2024
What a phenomenal cast of characters!!!!
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January 16, 2024
I want to hang out with with every cast of characters that Clare Pooley creates! Pooley states in her Author’s Note that she wrote this novel as a way to break the sad and feeble retiree typecast. In the novel 50-something Lydia is adjusting to an empty nest and trying to find her new purpose in life. She begins work at a community center and organizes a social group for 70+ adults. She learns that life isn’t over at a certain age and that they can all still “boss it”. LOVED!!!!!
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5,816 reviews326 followers
June 12, 2024
Laugh out loud hilarious from the first chapter! This latest from Clare Pooley had a quirky inter-generational cast of characters with their own unique back stories that we get to know as the novel progresses. It was fun, funny and heartwarming and perfect for fans of authors like Freya Sampson. Definitely my new favorite by this author and great on audio. Highly recommended if you're looking for an entertaining, feel-good read. Many thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for an early digital copy in exchange for my honest review!
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619 reviews458 followers
June 1, 2024
4.5!

Thank you to PRHC and NetGalley for my review copy, because this book was a JOY! So funny, a memorable cast of characters, and a great happy read all around. Highly recommend this!
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1,847 reviews572 followers
July 19, 2024
I saw a lot of hype on #Bookstagram over How to Age Disgracefully by Clare Pooley, and I can tell you without a doubt it is worth every bit of hype it has gotten. I loved our merry band of senior citizens with Lydia at the helm, and even though it isn't really a mystery, it gave me strong Thursday Murder Club vibes right down to the multiple viewpoints. And speaking of that, there is only 1 narrator for the audiobook as well! So many similarities but also a lot of differences, and I loved this heartwarming romp of a book.

The narrator for the audio is Clare Corbett whom I have listened to and loved before, and she was the perfect fit for How to Age Disgracefully. Always easy to understand, her narration was also expertly executed, and I could feel every emotion the characters were feeling. Daphne was my favorite character of them all, and I adored her feisty and intelligent personality. The hint of mysteriousness, amazing cast of characters, heartfelt and funny moments, and general badassery made this a huge winner for me and I can't wait to read more from Pooley! 🥰

I received an advanced listening copy of this book. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own.
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